Ai primit vreodat\u0103 emailuri scrise cu majuscule? Sau cu diverse cuvinte subliniate cu ro\u0219u? Sau pline de semne de exclamare \u0219i de cele trei puncte?
Ai \u00eent\u00e2lnit persoane care ridic\u0103 tonul \u00eentr-o conversa\u021bie \u00een care nici nu a\u021bi apucat sa ajunge\u021bi la subiect? Sau care folosesc sarcasmul, ironia continuu? Sau care vor s\u0103 te pun\u0103 la punct din privire?
Nu voi uita niciodat\u0103 o scena din serialul Ally McBeal, \u00een care Ally, nervoas\u0103, \u00ee\u0219i \u00eenchipuie c\u0103 scoate fl\u0103c\u0103ri, asemenea unui dragon, \u0219i \u00eel face pe interlocutor mic, nu c\u00e2t un pitic ci c\u00e2t un ibric:) Dac\u0103 scena din film a fost \u00eentr-o not\u0103 amuzant\u0103, \u00een realitate nu este deloc pl\u0103cut s\u0103 experimentezi oricare dintre scenariile de mai sus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Unii oameni par s\u0103 urle c\u00e2nd scriu. C\u00e2teodat\u0103 c\u00e2nd apar \u0219i deschid gura doar. Cuvintele lor vin \u00eenso\u021bite de majuscule, semne de exclamare, culori stridente \u2014 ca \u0219i cum ar vrea s\u0103 ne for\u021beze s\u0103 \u00eei auzim. Dar, paradoxal, mesajul se pierde tocmai din cauza formei. \u00centr-o lume deja zgomotoas\u0103, tonul ridicat, fie el \u0219i tip\u0103rit, nu convinge. Doar obose\u0219te, enerveaz\u0103, destabilizeaz\u0103, \u00eendep\u0103rteaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bl\u00e2nde\u021bea \u00een exprimare nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 sl\u0103biciune. Este semnul unei puteri interioare lini\u0219tite. \u00censeamn\u0103 s\u0103 alegi cuvintele cu grij\u0103, s\u0103 la\u0219i spa\u021biu \u00eentre g\u00e2nduri \u0219i s\u0103 folose\u0219ti tonul potrivit ca s\u0103 invi\u021bi pe cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 te asculte, nu doar s\u0103 te aud\u0103.
Mai mult, bl\u00e2nde\u021bea transform\u0103 conversa\u021biile. Ea dezarmeaz\u0103, creeaz\u0103 \u00eencredere \u0219i deschide c\u0103i de comunicare autentice. Scrisul bl\u00e2nd nu are nevoie de majuscule ca s\u0103 fie puternic. Are nevoie doar de prezen\u021b\u0103 \u0219i inten\u021bie.
Poate c\u0103 adev\u0103rata art\u0103 a comunic\u0103rii nu st\u0103 \u00een volum, ci \u00een vibra\u021bia pe care o las\u0103 \u00een urm\u0103 un cuv\u00e2nt spus \u2014 sau scris \u2014 cu calm \u0219i respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un exerci\u021biu simplu de repozi\u021bionare: \u00eenainte s\u0103 trimi\u021bi un mesaj, cite\u0219te-l cu voce tare, exact a\u0219a cum este, \u0219i observ\u0103 ce ton \u021bi-ar ie\u0219i spontan. Dac\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 ai ridica vocea, c\u0103 ai gr\u0103bi cuvintele sau c\u0103 ai suna t\u0103ios, rescrie p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd textul ar putea fi rostit calm, \u00eentr-o conversa\u021bie fa\u021b\u0103 \u00een fa\u021b\u0103. Iar \u00eenainte s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi verbal, imagineaz\u0103-\u021bi c\u0103 vorbele tale vor r\u0103m\u00e2ne scrise \u0219i citite de tine peste o lun\u0103: ai fi \u00eemp\u0103cat(\u0103) cu felul \u00een care ai formulat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bl\u00e2nde\u021bea \u00een exprimare este, \u00een fond, o alegere de ritm \u0219i de raportare: nu s\u0103 vorbim sau s\u0103 scriem mai pu\u021bin, ci s\u0103 o facem \u00een a\u0219a fel \u00eenc\u00e2t cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 se poat\u0103 apropia de noi, nu s\u0103 se apere de noi. C\u00e2nd scrisul \u0219i vorbirea se aliniaz\u0103 \u00een aceast\u0103 direc\u021bie, mesajul nu doar se aude \u0219i nu doar se cite\u0219te \u2013 se simte. Intre bl\u00e2nde\u021be \u0219i ostilitate, alege ce ai vrea s\u0103 prime\u0219ti si tu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ai primit vreodat\u0103 emailuri scrise cu majuscule? Sau cu diverse cuvinte subliniate cu ro\u0219u? Sau pline de semne de exclamare \u0219i de cele trei puncte?Ai \u00eent\u00e2lnit persoane care ridic\u0103 tonul \u00eentr-o conversa\u021bie…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9671,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9670"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9670"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9670\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9672,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9670\/revisions\/9672"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/9671"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9670"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9670"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9670"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}