\u00centr-unul din schimburile colegiale de citate mai mult sau mai pu\u021bin celebre care ne amuz\u0103, inspir\u0103 sau pun pe g\u00e2nduri, o coleg\u0103 \u00eemi trimite pe WhatsApp urm\u0103torul: \u201eComunicarea proast\u0103 e ca o halen\u0103 ur\u00e2t mirositoare: cei din jur o simt imediat, noi aproape niciodat\u0103.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Amuzant de adev\u0103rat\u0103 \u0219i memorabil\u0103, analogia m\u0103 pune imediat pe g\u00e2nduri. Am senza\u021bia c\u0103 poate fi valabil\u0103 \u0219i la fel de relevant\u0103 \u0219i pentru alte abilit\u0103\u021bi sau tr\u0103s\u0103turi. Nu-mi vine imediat \u00een minte exact cu ce am putea substitui abilitatea de comunicare astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t zicala s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 la fel de valabil\u0103, dar mintea \u00eemi zboar\u0103 la cum po\u021bi sc\u0103pa de halena mirositoare, pentru c\u0103 intuiesc c\u0103 procesul real poate fi un r\u0103spuns bun \u0219i pentru cum po\u021bi s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021be\u0219ti stilul de comunicare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u0103i, \u00een primul r\u00e2nd, e nevoie s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi zic\u0103 cineva clasicul, directul \u0219i oarecum nepl\u0103cutul \u201evezi c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi pute gura!\u201d, cu alte cuvinte, o persoan\u0103 c\u00e2t de c\u00e2t apropiat\u0103, direct\u0103, capabil\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dea un feedback onest, pe care s\u0103 \u00eel iei de bun \u0219i nu ca pe o insult\u0103 sau un atac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pasul doi, rapid \u0219i eficace pe termen scurt, e s\u0103 iei o gum\u0103 de mestecat, o bomboan\u0103 de ment\u0103 sau eventual un spray de gur\u0103. \u0218tim \u00eens\u0103 am\u00e2ndoi c\u0103 astea sunt doar solu\u021bii de moment. Dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 scapi cu adev\u0103rat de problem\u0103, e nevoie s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi revizuie\u0219ti rutina de igien\u0103 \u0219i, dac\u0103 nici a\u0219a nu merge, s\u0103 consul\u021bi un specialist. Poate cauza e \u00een digestie, alimenta\u021bie, dantur\u0103 sau \u00een probleme gingivale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
La fel \u0219i cu comunicarea: dac\u0103 ai norocul s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi spun\u0103 cineva c\u0103 e ceva \u00een neregul\u0103 (iat\u0103 de ce unii zic cu emfaz\u0103 corporatist\u0103 c\u0103 \u201efeedback is a gift\u201d), te po\u021bi corecta pe loc \u0219i repara cu ce ai la \u00eendem\u00e2n\u0103: cuno\u0219tin\u021be, maniere, scuze sau alte \u201espray-uri de gur\u0103\u201d. Dac\u0103 semnalele continu\u0103 s\u0103 apar\u0103, merit\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi reexaminezi obiceiurile. Poate, din mimetism sau pentru efect teatral, ai \u00eenceput s\u0103 adaugi dr\u0103cuieli sau alte injurii ca semne de punctua\u021bie stilistic\u0103 (nu de alta, dar e plin de exemple din astea, cel pu\u021bin \u00een spa\u021biul cultural balcanic) – moment bun s\u0103 faci curat \u00een exprimare. Iar dac\u0103 nici asta nu ajut\u0103, poate e timpul s\u0103 ceri sprijin de la speciali\u0219ti, care s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi arate cauzele reale \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi ofere tehnici \u0219i solu\u021bii pe care nu le cuno\u0219teai. Ca \u0219i \u00een cazul mersului la doctor, toate astea cer timp, bani \u0219i efort.
P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, e o decizie asumat\u0103 s\u0103 corectezi ceva atunci c\u00e2nd ai \u0219ansa s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dai seama de asta. Se poate tr\u0103i \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103, bine\u00een\u021beles, mai ales dac\u0103 e\u0219ti convins c\u0103 lumea trebuie s\u0103 te accepte a\u0219a cum e\u0219ti tu, \u201eautentic\u201d. Mult succes!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00centre timp, mi-am dat seama cu ce se mai poate substitui comunicarea \u00een zical\u0103, cu acela\u0219i efect retoric: caracterul. P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, majoritatea dintre noi credem c\u0103 suntem de bun-sim\u021b \u0219i bine inten\u021biona\u021bi. E nevoie – \u0219i ajut\u0103 enorm – ca cineva s\u0103 ne atrag\u0103 aten\u021bia atunci c\u00e2nd nu e chiar a\u0219a. Da, \u0219tiu, cu caracterul procesul e mai anevoios \u0219i necesit\u0103 \u0219i mai mult efort, poate chiar e nevoie s\u0103 consult\u0103m mai mul\u021bi speciali\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pentru c\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 oglinzi sincere, nici halena, nici comunicarea, nici caracterul nu se corecteaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u0219a c\u0103 \u00eentrebarea care r\u0103m\u00e2ne e simpl\u0103: avem persoane \u00een jurul nostru care s\u0103 ne atrag\u0103 aten\u021bia c\u0103 ne \u201epute\u201d comunicarea?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weekly Inspiration scris de Lucian Mihai.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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