\u201dP\u0103i nu mai bine f\u0103ceai o poz\u0103 la m\u0103sur\u0103tori \u00een loc s\u0103 vii cu foaia dup\u0103 tine la magazin?\u201d
\u201dAdic\u0103 ce vrea s\u0103 spun\u0103 poetul?\u201d, \u00eentreb eu, uit\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 pe sub spr\u00e2ncene \u0219i \u00eencerc\u00e2nd \u00een acela\u0219i timp s\u0103 elimin nota defensiv\u0103 care se strecurase \u00een tonul meu. Preb\u0103nuitul este Radu, so\u021bul prietenei mele, care momentan poart\u0103 singura vin\u0103 c\u0103 s-a oferit s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute cu ni\u0219te cump\u0103r\u0103turi de la un magazin de bricolaj. \u00cemi dau seama din expresia lui nedumerit\u0103 c\u0103 a pierdut brusc harta conversa\u021biei.
\u201dStai s\u0103-\u021bi explic. \u0218tii c\u0103 de multe ori c\u00e2nd vin pe la voi \u0219i, cum st\u0103m noi de vorb\u0103, dintr-una \u00eentr-alta, tu \u00eemi zici \u2018Auzi, da\u2019 de ce nu ai f\u0103cut X \u00een loc s\u0103 faci Y?\u2019, sau \u2018Da\u2019 nu mai bine \u00ee\u021bi instalai Z \u0219i sc\u0103pai de toat\u0103 b\u0103taia de cap?\u2019 \u0218tii la ce m\u0103 refer?\u201d
\u201dDa\u2026cred?\u201d
\u201d\u0218i ba facem o glum\u0103, ba trecem peste, dar de fapt m\u0103 cam deranjeaz\u0103, \u0219i cred c\u0103 se vede de obicei.\u201d
\u201dA\u0219aaaa\u2026\u201d
\u201dMi-am dat seama c\u0103 m\u0103 sup\u0103r pentru c\u0103 am impresia c\u0103-mi zici c\u0103 ce fac eu e gre\u0219it, c\u0103 metoda mea e praf. Iar eu eram mul\u021bumit\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 atunci, \u0219i de metod\u0103, \u0219i de rezultate. \u0218i m-am g\u00e2ndit s\u0103 te \u00eentreb, tu de fapt de ce tot zici chestiile astea?\u201d
\u201dA, gata, \u0219tiu. Alina, eu sunt b\u0103rbat \u0219i sunt inginer\u201d, continu\u0103 el dup\u0103 o scurt\u0103 pauz\u0103, folosind una dintre glumele noastre interne. \u201dAsta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 o preocupare permanent\u0103 de-a mea este optimizarea. Faptul c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi sugerez c\u0103 exist\u0103 o cale mai bun\u0103 nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 automat c\u0103 a ta este proast\u0103. De altfel, \u0103sta e un challenge pe care mi-l dau \u0219i mie, tot timpul.\u201d
\u201dMersi c\u0103 mi-ai zis, alt\u0103 via\u021b\u0103!\u201d, \u00eei r\u0103spund eu \u0219i scot victorioas\u0103 foaia de h\u00e2rtie din po\u0219eta c\u00e2t o batist\u0103 ceva mai mare.
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Am s\u0103 folosesc exemplul \u0103sta la curs, \u00eemi zic apoi \u00een sinea mea, pentru c\u0103 mi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 des s\u0103 ajung s\u0103 vorbesc despre decalajul dintre inten\u021bie \u0219i impact \u00een comunicare. De multe ori pun accentul pe ipostaza lui Radu \u2013 s\u0103 fim aten\u021bi la modul \u00een care formul\u0103m cerin\u021be sau sugestii, s\u0103 fim transparen\u021bi cu privire la inten\u021biile noastre, \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe.
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Dar realizez c\u0103 \u0219i la primire este de munc\u0103, nimic de zis. Este important s\u0103 ne \u0219tim butoanele sensibile, dar nu este suficient. \u00cen frac\u021biunea de secund\u0103 de dinainte de reac\u021bia emo\u021bional\u0103 putem strecura o \u00eentrebare de clarificare. Este uimitor c\u00e2t de des e tot ce ne trebuie pentru a p\u0103stra conversa\u021bia pe \u0219ine.
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\u201dP\u0103i nu mai bine f\u0103ceai o poz\u0103 la m\u0103sur\u0103tori \u00een loc s\u0103 vii cu foaia dup\u0103 tine la magazin?\u201d\u201dAdic\u0103 ce vrea s\u0103 spun\u0103 poetul?\u201d, \u00eentreb eu, uit\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 pe sub spr\u00e2ncene \u0219i \u00eencerc\u00e2nd…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9570,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9616"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9616"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9616\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9617,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9616\/revisions\/9617"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/9570"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9616"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9616"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9616"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}