\u201dAcuma ce te-ai enervat \u0219i tu a\u0219a, d\u0103-i \u00eencolo, c\u0103 n-ai cu cine!\u201d
\u201dHai dom\u2019le, orice om \u0219tie asta, nu-mi spune c\u0103 n-ai auzit p\u00e2n\u0103 acum!\u201d
\u201dTrebuie s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 \u0103sta e procesul \u0219i nu exist\u0103 excep\u021bii de la procedur\u0103.\u201d
\u201dDou\u0103 cuvinte: ex-clus!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u021bi auzit aceste expresii sau varia\u021biuni pe tema lor? Cel ma probabil, deoarece ele fac parte din limbajul cotidian. Cum v-a\u021bi sim\u021bit, \u00een cazul mai pu\u021bin fericit \u00een care cineva vi le-a adresat direct? Nu tocmai bine, \u00eemi imaginez. Posibil c\u0103 v-au declan\u0219at ni\u0219te butoane, c\u0103 v-a\u021bi sim\u021bit ne\u00een\u021bele\u0219i, constr\u00e2n\u0219i, respin\u0219i, ignoran\u021bi. C\u0103, dac\u0103 cineva v-ar fi cerut atunci s\u0103 v\u0103 descrie\u021bi sentimentele, a\u021bi fi folosit chiar aceste cuvinte sau ni\u0219te termeni echivalen\u021bi.
Putem pe de alt\u0103 parte s\u0103 \u00eenaint\u0103m \u0219i ipoteza c\u0103 vorbitorul nu inten\u021biona neap\u0103rat s\u0103-\u0219i minimizeze, s\u0103-\u0219i ridiculizeze sau s\u0103-\u0219i constr\u00e2ng\u0103 interlocutorul. Dimpotriv\u0103, este destul de probabil c\u0103 iadul rezultat era de fapt pavat cu inten\u021bii bune. Iat\u0103 c\u00e2teva traduceri tentative ale inten\u021biilor din spatele cuvintelor de mai sus:
\u201dAcuma ce te-ai enervat\u2026\u201d \u2013 \u00eemi pare r\u0103u c\u0103 te consumi pentru un lucru foarte posibil lipsit de importan\u021b\u0103
\u201dHai dom\u2019le, oricine \u0219tie\u2026\u201d \u2013 sunt surprins c\u0103 cineva nu \u0219tie ceva ce eu consideram o informa\u021bie bine cunoscut\u0103
\u201dTrebuie s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi\u2026\u201d \u2013 este foarte important pentru mine s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi procesul \u0219i constr\u00e2ngerile pe care le avem
\u201dDou\u0103 cuvinte\u2026\u201d \u2013 \u00een experien\u021ba mea\/cu datele pe care le avem acum, nu pare posibil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Alt\u0103 via\u021b\u0103, nu? Exprimate astfel, sau \u00een moduri similare, ele nu mai par s\u0103 aib\u0103 acela\u0219i poten\u021bial nociv de a deturna discu\u021bia spre o zon\u0103 emo\u021bional\u0103 \u0219i a\u0219adar problematic\u0103. Se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 deseori ca derapajele \u00een dialog s\u0103 vin\u0103 din acest decalaj \u00eentre inten\u021bii \u0219i maniera \u00een care au fost comunicate.
Analiz\u00e2nd expresiile acestea, ne-am pus problema care e impactul lor asupra celui c\u0103ruia i se adreseaz\u0103, cu alte cuvinte cum este s\u0103 fii la primire. \u00cens\u0103 probabil ne mai scap\u0103 \u0219i nou\u0103 c\u00e2te un porumbel din acesta, de\u0219i suntem anima\u021bi de cele mai bune inten\u021bii. Ce-i de f\u0103cut? Este uman, nimeni nu comunic\u0103 perfect, nimeni nu vorbe\u0219te \u00eentocmai ca \u00een variantele traduse. Ce putem s\u0103 facem, totu\u0219i, dup\u0103 ce a zburat porumbelul, este s\u0103 revenim \u0219i s\u0103 clarific\u0103m inten\u021bia ini\u021bial\u0103. \u201d\u00cemi dau seama c\u0103 asta n-a sunat cum trebuie. Ce vreau de fapt s\u0103 spun este\u2026\u201d. Posibil ca acest simplu fapt s\u0103 fie suficient ca s\u0103 men\u021binem conversa\u021bia pe \u0219ine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weekly Inspiration scris de Alina Doica.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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