\u201eCe, \u021bi-au murit l\u0103ud\u0103torii?\u201d Posibil c\u0103 a\u021bi auzit expresia asta cel pu\u021bin o dat\u0103 \u00een istoria voastr\u0103 personal\u0103, dac\u0103 nu cumva face\u021bi parte din genera\u021biile mai tinere. \u2018Pe vremea mea\u2019 era folosit pe scar\u0103 larg\u0103 pentru a taxa, cu umor ce-i drept, lauda de sine.
L\u0103ud\u0103ro\u0219enia este un comportament indezirabil, cel pu\u021bin \u00een spa\u021biul nostru cultural. Nu doar cuv\u00e2ntul \u00een sine are o conota\u021bie peiorativ\u0103, avem chiar \u0219i proverbul care o spune pe \u0219leau \u2013 \u201elauda de sine nu miroase a bine\u201d. Dac\u0103 analiz\u0103m pu\u021bin, valoarea promovat\u0103 este de fapt cea a modestiei. Dar modestia este o virtute, \u00een fond, a\u0219a c\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 aici nimic reprobabil, nu-i a\u0219a?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc uneori din polul opus: care este pre\u021bul pe termen lung al acestor vorbe, bine inten\u021bionate, dar plantate \u00een noi cam la \u00eent\u00e2mplare \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 prea mare aten\u021bie la puterea lor formatoare? Ele ne-au \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat c\u0103 modestia este important\u0103 \u2013 \u0219i este \u2013 dar oare nu au format \u0219i un oarecare handicap? Am un exemplu recent, despre care intuiesc c\u0103 ilustreaz\u0103 destul de precis (on point, accurately) o mentalitate, de multe ori incon\u0219tient\u0103, a modestiei cu orice pre\u021b.
Un prieten \u00eemi povestea despre contextul s\u0103u profesional, mai tulbure \u00een acest moment, \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 \u0219anse mari s\u0103 se limpezeasc\u0103 \u00een cur\u00e2nd. L-am \u00eentrebat dac\u0103 s-a g\u00e2ndit s\u0103 schimbe organiza\u021bia. \u201dDa, m-am g\u00e2ndit, dar nu \u0219tiu ce a\u0219 putea s\u0103 fac \u00een alt\u0103 parte, eu nu sunt un expert, nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 m-ar vrea cineva. Sunt un prof de sport care a lucrat la un retailer timp de aproape 20 de ani.\u201d \u00cent\u00e2mpl\u0103tor, \u0219tiam c\u00e2te ceva despre parcursul lui, a\u0219a c\u0103 l-am \u00eentrebat: \u201dPrin c\u00e2te departamente ai trecut \u00een ace\u0219ti 20 de ani?\u201d \u201dNu mai \u0219tiu, multe. Nu chiar toate, dar aproape.\u201d \u201d\u0218i-atunci, \u021bi-ai pus vreodat\u0103 problema c\u0103 \u00een timpul \u0103sta tu de fapt ai acumulat o \u00een\u021belegere foarte solid\u0103 a business-ului pe care probabil pu\u021bini o au?\u201d Mi-am dat seama dup\u0103 expresia lui surprins\u0103 c\u0103 nu. Mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t, nici m\u0103car nu-i trecuse prin minte c\u0103 asta ar putea fi ceva de valoare, c\u0103 ar putea s\u0103 conteze. Din categoria \u201dn-am f\u0103cut eu mare lucru\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sunt greu de recunoscut aceste modele mentale, \u00een principal pentru c\u0103 le-am preluat incon\u0219tient. A\u0219 spune \u0219i c\u0103 ele nu sunt \u00een mod absolut corecte sau gre\u0219ite. Pot fi \u00eens\u0103 mai adecvate sau mai pu\u021bin adecvate \u00een raport cu ce ne dorim s\u0103 realiz\u0103m, ce fel de oameni vrem s\u0103 fim \u0219i, de ce nu, cu poten\u021bialul nostru. C\u00e2te un moment din acesta de surpriz\u0103 le poate dezv\u0103lui, \u0219i-atunci merit\u0103 s\u0103 ne oprim pu\u021bin \u0219i s\u0103 reflect\u0103m: de ce cred asta? M\u0103 ajut\u0103? Cum altfel a\u0219 mai putea privi lucrurile? \u0218i-apoi s\u0103 decid \u00een consecin\u021b\u0103. \u00cen cazul specific de la care am pornit, s\u0103 aleg dac\u0103 este potrivit s\u0103 fiu modest sau totu\u0219i mi-ar prinde bine vreo doi l\u0103ud\u0103tori pe la fereastr\u0103, chiar dac\u0103 unul dintre ei sunt eu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weekly Inspiration scris de Alina Doica.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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