\u201dDe ce l-am pierduuuut? Era \u0219oricelul meeeeu! Nu eram preg\u0103tit\u0103 pentru astaaaaa!\u201d A\u0219a r\u0103suna casa nu demult, c\u00e2nd fata mea cea mic\u0103 a descoperit c\u0103 pierduse din ghiozdan o juc\u0103rie ce \u00eei \u021binuse companie \u00een ultimele zile. Astfel de tragedii m\u0103runte li se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 tuturor copiilor \u2013 m\u0103 \u00eentreb uneori dac\u0103 juc\u0103riile nu au cumva un destin al lor \u0219i \u00eentr-o bun\u0103 zi sunt chemate, cu sau f\u0103r\u0103 voia lor, \u00eentr-o aventur\u0103, cam ca \u00een Toy Story, doar c\u0103 majoritatea din p\u0103cate nu se \u00eentorc la copilul lor. Iar aceste ocazii, de mare suferin\u021b\u0103 \u00een micul lor univers, sunt probabil menite s\u0103 \u00eei \u00eenve\u021be lec\u021bia pierderii, cea at\u00e2t de grea \u0219i de esen\u021bial\u0103.
Cu g\u00e2ndul la \u0219oricelul cro\u0219etat \u00een culori vesele, am luat-o \u00een bra\u021be \u0219i m-am str\u0103duit c\u00e2t am putut de bine doar s\u0103 o ascult \u0219i s\u0103 o m\u00e2ng\u00e2i, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i promit un \u00eenlocuitor, s\u0103-i spun c\u0103 o s\u0103 treac\u0103 sau s\u0103 o \u00eendemn s\u0103 se lini\u0219teasc\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ascult\u00e2nd-o, mi-am dat seama c\u0103 exprim\u0103, \u00een cuvinte foarte simple \u0219i clare, esen\u021ba doliului s\u0103n\u0103tos: \u201eCum de am putut s\u0103-l pierd? De ce nu am fost mai atent\u0103? Era prietenul meu, \u021bineam mult la el. Abia \u00eel reg\u0103sisem, n-am apucat s\u0103 petrecem dec\u00e2t c\u00e2teva zile \u00eempreun\u0103. O s\u0103 \u00eemi fie dor de el\u201d. \u0218i tocmai aceast\u0103 verbalizare a suferin\u021bei, f\u0103r\u0103 interven\u021bie sau \u00eentrerupere extern\u0103, a ajutat-o s\u0103 se lini\u0219teasc\u0103.
Episodul mi-a confirmat ceva ce b\u0103nuiam mai de mult \u2013 copiii vin dota\u021bi cu ni\u0219te mecanisme de autoreglare foarte bine puse la punct \u0219i merit\u0103 s\u0103 avem curajul s\u0103 le l\u0103s\u0103m s\u0103 se manifeste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mi-am amintit c\u0103 la cursuri, c\u00e2nd ajungem s\u0103 vorbim despre inteligen\u021b\u0103 emo\u021bional\u0103 sau alte subiecte conexe, \u00eei \u00eentreb uneori pe participan\u021bi dac\u0103 \u0219tiu care este rolul emo\u021biilor. O \u00eentrebare pe c\u00e2t de banal\u0103, pe at\u00e2t de complicat\u0103. Majoritatea \u0219tiu sau \u00ee\u0219i dau seama c\u0103 unul dintre rolurile lor este s\u0103 ne semnaleze diverse lucruri din universul exterior \u0219i interior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Emo\u021biile de baz\u0103 sunt exemplele cele mai simple, cu o excep\u021bie. Oamenilor le este u\u0219or s\u0103 decodeze semnalul fricii (pericol), al furiei (decalaj \u00eentre a\u0219tept\u0103rile noastre \u0219i realitate), al bucuriei (\u201etotul este ok, continu\u0103 s\u0103 faci ce f\u0103ceai\u201d), al dezgustului (ceva sau cineva toxic), \u00eens\u0103 la triste\u021be se las\u0103 de obicei t\u0103cerea \u0219i dureaz\u0103 pu\u021bin p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd se lipesc firele \u2013 triste\u021bea semnaleaz\u0103 o pierdere. Asta se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 pentru c\u0103 este una dintre cele mai complexe emo\u021bii, pe de o parte. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, ne lipse\u0219te un lexicon al triste\u021bii, sau m\u0103car un dic\u021bionar de buzunar. Nu prea \u0219tim ce s\u0103 facem cu ea, c\u00e2nd o tr\u0103im, c\u00e2nd o vedem la cei din jur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nu \u00eemi propun s\u0103 dau sfaturi aici, \u0219i nici nu cred c\u0103 se cuvine. E un teritoriu prea vast, prea profund \u0219i prea personal. Ce \u0219tiu \u00eens\u0103 c\u0103 ajut\u0103 mereu este ca, atunci c\u00e2nd ne \u00eent\u00e2lnim cu ea, \u00een noi sau \u00een ceilal\u021bi, s\u0103 o recunoa\u0219tem cu bl\u00e2nde\u021be \u0219i s\u0103-i fim tovar\u0103\u0219 t\u0103cut de drum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weekly Inspiration scris de Alina Doica.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201dDe ce l-am pierduuuut? Era \u0219oricelul meeeeu! Nu eram preg\u0103tit\u0103 pentru astaaaaa!\u201d A\u0219a r\u0103suna casa nu demult, c\u00e2nd fata mea cea mic\u0103 a descoperit c\u0103 pierduse din ghiozdan o juc\u0103rie ce \u00eei…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6508,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9487"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9487"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9487\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9488,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9487\/revisions\/9488"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/6508"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9487"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9487"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9487"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}