\u00centr-un context personal, intru \u00eentr-o o conversa\u021bie fireasc\u0103 de introducere cu o persoan\u0103 pe care tocmai o \u00eent\u00e2lnesc pentru prima oar\u0103. Dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva schimburi de replici \u0219i polite\u021buri clasice, persoana \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u00eemi povesteasc\u0103 recentele experien\u021be prin care trece. Ascult, mai pun \u00eentreb\u0103ri ca s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg. \u00centre timp, nu aflu doar prin ce trece, dar \u0219i detalii destul de multe despre familie dar chiar \u0219i despre locuri preferate de cump\u0103r\u0103turi \u0219i chiar sfaturi sau recomand\u0103ri, nu neap\u0103rat solicitate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dup\u0103 jum\u0103tate de or\u0103 \u00eemi dau seama c\u0103 nu mai \u00eentreb nimic, iar dup\u0103 45 de minute e aproape monolog. Eu nu mai vorbesc \u0219i treptat, joc doar un singur rol, acela de ascult\u0103tor. Persoana mea nu treze\u0219te, aparent, niciun alt interes, nici o curiozitate. Discu\u021bia este doar despre cel\u0103lalt. \u00cemi aduc pe moment aminte de gluma cu \u201eAm vorbit destul despre mine. Hai sa vorbim despre tine, uite, a\u0219 fi curios s\u0103 aflu ce crezi tu despre mine?\u201d
Am trecut prin aceste tipuri de ‘conversa\u021bie’ destul de des \u0219i realizez c\u0103 deja am dezvoltat un mecanism de evitare pe c\u00e2t posibil a contactelor ulterioare cu astfel de persoane. Poate e o judecat\u0103 pripit\u0103, dar dup\u0103 o v\u00e2rst\u0103 prefer s\u0103 \u00eemi gestionez cu mult\u0103 aten\u021bie via\u021ba social\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
St\u0103team s\u0103 m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc, ulterior, la cursurile de ascultare activ\u0103, unde vorbim despre a pune \u00eentreb\u0103ri, a fi atent la cel\u0103lalt, a clarifica etc. \u0219i am ajuns la concluzia c\u0103 \u00een astfel de situa\u021bii nu este deloc vorba despre lucruri at\u00e2t de profunde. \u00cen cursuri, accentul se pune firesc pe rela\u021bii profesionale existente \u00een contexte preponderent profesionale. Cred c\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 vorbim de ascultare activ\u0103, empatie, dialog sau ascultare profund\u0103, e nevoie uneori s\u0103 ne \u00eentoarcem la simple norme de polite\u021be conversa\u021bional\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u0219a cum zicem \u201ebun\u0103 ziua\u201d, \u201dmul\u021bumesc\u201d \u0219i \u201dcu pl\u0103cere\u201d tot timpul, chiar dac\u0103 ziua nu e neap\u0103rat bun\u0103, iar pl\u0103cerea \u0219i recuno\u0219tin\u021ba nu sunt maxime, \u00een conversa\u021biile de prezentare \u0219i introducere \u00een orice context social e nevoie s\u0103 juc\u0103m mereu dou\u0103 roluri, de vorbitor \u0219i de ascult\u0103tor, \u0219i, a\u0219a cum zicem oricum \u201ebun\u0103 ziua\u201d, e de dorit ca \u00een orice situa\u021bie s\u0103 punem c\u00e2teva \u00eentreb\u0103ri despre cel\u0103lalt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Da, cred c\u0103 e politicos ca, minimal, s\u0103 mim\u0103m m\u0103car interesul pentru cealalt\u0103 persoan\u0103 a\u0219a cum mim\u0103m uneori cu minciuni ‘albe’ pl\u0103cerea, starea de bine sau recuno\u0219tin\u021ba, \u00een de saluturi, mul\u021bumiri \u0219i altele. Normele de polite\u021be sunt o form\u0103 de igien\u0103 social\u0103 pe care de cele mai multe ori le respect\u0103m chiar dac\u0103 asta presupune o oarecare lips\u0103 de sinceritate. Am senza\u021bia c\u0103 normele de polite\u021be conversa\u021bional\u0103 nu sunt la fel de bine diseminate \u00een jur. Sau mi se pare doar mie?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weekly Inspiration scris de Lucian M Mihai.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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