Am v\u0103zut zilele trecute o mem\u0103 care m-a distrat. Citez aproximativ: \u201dAdolescen\u021bi, v-a\u021bi s\u0103turat de cic\u0103lelile p\u0103rin\u021bilor? Ac\u021biona\u021bi acum! Muta\u021bi-v\u0103 de acas\u0103, angaja\u021bi-v\u0103, \u00eentre\u021bine\u021bi-v\u0103 singuri! Repede, c\u00e2t \u00eenc\u0103 \u0219ti\u021bi tot!\u201d
Face parte din experien\u021ba vie\u021bii, s\u0103 ajungem la acea \u00een\u021belegere c\u0103, pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce descoperim mai multe, avem ni\u0219te limite \u00een ce \u0219i c\u00e2t \u0219tim. S\u0103 ajungem, cum ar veni, la un anumit nivel de smerenie intelectual\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 ne d\u0103m seama c\u0103 certitudinile pe care le aveam sunt de fapt iluzorii. Iar asta, desigur, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 doar dac\u0103 suntem dispu\u0219i s\u0103 mergem \u00een aceast\u0103 direc\u021bie, s\u0103 nu ne mul\u021bumim cu traiul f\u0103r\u0103 dileme, s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m mai mult, \u0219tiind c\u0103 mereu doar vom \u00eempinge frontiera mai departe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Citind mema mi-am dat seama apoi c\u0103 nu li se aplic\u0103 doar tinerilor. Nu suntem nicic\u00e2nd scuti\u021bi de capcana asta, indiferent c\u00e2\u021bi trandafiri am prins \u00een buchetul vie\u021bii. De exemplu, vorbeam la un moment dat cu o prieten\u0103 despre ritualuri de hidratare \u0219i regenerare a p\u0103rului. O conversa\u021bie dintre acelea f\u0103r\u0103 miz\u0103, reconfortant\u0103 \u00een frivolitatea ei. \u00cei spuneam despre cum nu-mi g\u0103sesc niciodat\u0103 timp s\u0103 m\u0103 ocup de asta \u0219i cum, la modul realist, nu o s\u0103 o fac probabil vreodat\u0103. \u201dAuzi\u201d, a replicat ea \u201ddar de ce nu \u00eencerci tu s\u0103\u2026\u201d, plus o solu\u021bie la o problem\u0103 pe care tocmai declarasem c\u0103 nu o am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Expresia mi-a atras aten\u021bia. \u201dAuzi, de ce nu faci tu XYZ\u201d este de cele mai multe ori introducerea pentru un sfat nesolicitat. Probabil sunt pu\u021bine lucruri mai antipatice \u2013 m\u0103 refer la lucrurile m\u0103runte, benigne \u2013 dec\u00e2t aceste sfaturi nesolictate, indiferent din partea cui ar veni. \u0218i totu\u0219i, cu to\u021bii p\u0103c\u0103tuim zilnic \u00een ce le prive\u0219te. Este normal, p\u00e2n\u0103 la un punct. De cele mai multe ori, ele vin din nevoia noastr\u0103 de a fi valida\u021bi \u0219i din dorin\u021ba de a fi de ajutor. Pot porni din cele mai bune inten\u021bii dar, indiferent dac\u0103 se aplic\u0103 la activitatea profesional\u0103, existen\u021ba cotidian\u0103 sau lec\u021bii despre lume \u0219i via\u021b\u0103, risc\u0103 \u00een cel mai bun caz s\u0103 fie ignorate. Adesea \u00eens\u0103 provoac\u0103 iritare, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei transmit celuilalt \u00een subtext c\u0103 el nu \u0219tie, pe c\u00e2nd tu \u0219tii, \u0219i \u021bi-ai asumat misiunea nobil\u0103 de a-l lumina. Deci, s\u0103 ne control\u0103m mai bine impulsul, zic, \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m \u00eent\u00e2i o \u00eentrebare de genul \u201d\u0218i, ce te-ai g\u00e2ndit s\u0103 faci \u00een privin\u021ba asta?\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pe de alt\u0103 parte, \u0219i la primire putem fi mai elegan\u021bi dec\u00e2t ne vine pe moment. Nu \u0219tiu al\u021bii cum sunt, dar mie una, mai coleric\u0103 din fire, \u00eemi vine s\u0103 zic \u201dAdic\u0103 ce vrei s\u0103 spui, c\u0103 pe mine nu m-a dus at\u00e2ta capul?\u201d, sau alte fine\u021buri similare. S\u0103 ne amintim c\u0103 inten\u021bia este cel mai probabil bun\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 fim curio\u0219i. S\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem perspectiva celuilalt. Cel mai r\u0103u lucru care se poate \u00eent\u00e2mpla este o validare a unei solu\u021bii la care ne-am g\u00e2ndit, iar cel mai bun este c\u0103 vom avea un punct de vedere \u00een plus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weekly Interaction scris de Alina Doica.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Am v\u0103zut zilele trecute o mem\u0103 care m-a distrat. Citez aproximativ: \u201dAdolescen\u021bi, v-a\u021bi s\u0103turat de cic\u0103lelile p\u0103rin\u021bilor? Ac\u021biona\u021bi acum! Muta\u021bi-v\u0103 de acas\u0103, angaja\u021bi-v\u0103, \u00eentre\u021bine\u021bi-v\u0103 singuri! Repede, c\u00e2t \u00eenc\u0103 \u0219ti\u021bi tot!\u201dFace parte din…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6508,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9459"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9459"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9459\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9460,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9459\/revisions\/9460"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/6508"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9459"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9459"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9459"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}