Exist\u0103 o \u00eentrebare cli\u0219eu la multe interviuri de angajare: \u201eCe defecte ave\u021bi?\u201d Mai sunt \u0219i alte ipostaze \u00een care oamenii ajung s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i recunoasc\u0103 anumite defecte. Indiferent de situa\u021bie \u0219i nu \u0219tiu c\u00e2t de validat de statistici este, un r\u0103spuns pe care l-am auzit foarte des este cel legat de sinceritate: \u201esunt \u00eentotdeauna sincer\u201d, \u201enu pot s\u0103 mint\u201d, \u201esunt prea onest\u201d. Probabil le recunoa\u0219te\u021bi. Cred c\u0103 \u00een majoritatea acestor situa\u021bii prejudecata dezirabilit\u0103\u021bii sociale tinde s\u0103 se manifeste accentuat. Pe de alt\u0103 parte cred c\u0103 frecven\u021ba cu care aceste r\u0103spunsuri apar \u0219i aparenta lor acceptare social\u0103 arat\u0103 \u0219i rela\u021bia noastr\u0103 de superficialitate cu minciuna.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Acceptabilitatea minciunii a fost, \u0219i r\u0103m\u00e2ne, o problem\u0103 etic\u0103 \u0219i moral\u0103 intens dezb\u0103tut\u0103. Tindem s\u0103 asociem mai degrab\u0103 minciuna cu ceva negativ. Cu toate acestea, exist\u0103 totu\u0219i un num\u0103r tot mai mare de cercet\u0103ri care demonstreaz\u0103 nu doar c\u0103 minciuna face parte din via\u021ba de zi cu zi \u0219i din interac\u021biunile sociale, ci \u0219i c\u0103 este un factor necesar \u0219i pozitiv \u00een mai multe situa\u021bii dec\u00e2t tindem s\u0103 credem la prima vedere. Cei care afirm\u0103 c\u0103 nu mint niciodat\u0103 sau c\u0103 sunt \u00eentotdeauna sinceri probabil au avut \u00eentotdeauna o zi bun\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd au dat bine\u021be \u0219i negre\u0219it le-a p\u0103rut \u00eentotdeauna bine c\u00e2nd au cunoscut pe cineva a\u0219a cum au sim\u021bit mereu pl\u0103cere \u0219i drag atunci c\u00e2nd au zis \u201ecu pl\u0103cere\u201d sau \u201ecu drag\u201d. Dar nu la aceste minciuni nevinovate sub forma unor polite\u021buri fire\u0219ti ce asigur\u0103 o minim\u0103 igien\u0103 social\u0103 a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 m\u0103 refer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Speciali\u0219tii fac o diferen\u021b\u0103 \u00eentre ceea ce ei numesc minciuni antisociale \u0219i cele prosociale.
La \u00eenceput, capacitatea de a min\u021bi reflect\u0103 o etap\u0103 de dezvoltare: Copiii mici dob\u00e2ndesc o \u201eteorie a min\u021bii”, care este modul psihologic de a descrie capacitatea noastr\u0103 de a distinge propriile noastre convingeri, inten\u021bii, dorin\u021be \u0219i cuno\u0219tin\u021be de ceea ce ar putea fi \u00een mintea altor persoane. Minciuna antisocial\u0103 apare mai devreme dec\u00e2t minciuna prosocial\u0103 la copii, deoarece este mult mai simpl\u0103, din punct de vedere al dezvolt\u0103rii; ea necesit\u0103 \u00een principal \u00een\u021belegerea faptului c\u0103 adul\u021bii nu \u00ee\u021bi pot citi g\u00e2ndurile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar minciuna prosocial\u0103 necesit\u0103 mai mult dec\u00e2t o simpl\u0103 teorie a min\u021bii. Aceasta necesit\u0103 capacitatea de a identifica suferin\u021ba unei alte persoane (empatie) \u0219i dorin\u021ba de a alina aceast\u0103 suferin\u021b\u0103 (compasiune). Chiar mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t, implic\u0103 anticiparea faptului c\u0103 ac\u021biunile sau cuvintele noastre ar putea provoca suferin\u021b\u0103 \u00eentr-un oarecare viitor.
De aceea c\u00e2nd aud pe cineva c\u0103 zice c\u0103 e onest \u0219i direct tot timpul, c\u0103 nu minte niciodat\u0103, m\u0103 \u00eendoiesc pu\u021bin de capacit\u0103\u021bile sale de empatie, compasiune \u0219i de diploma\u021bie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Weekly Inspiration scris de Lucian Mihai.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Exist\u0103 o \u00eentrebare cli\u0219eu la multe interviuri de angajare: \u201eCe defecte ave\u021bi?\u201d Mai sunt \u0219i alte ipostaze \u00een care oamenii ajung s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i recunoasc\u0103 anumite defecte. Indiferent de situa\u021bie \u0219i nu \u0219tiu…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7944,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9448"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9448"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9448\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9449,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9448\/revisions\/9449"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/7944"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9448"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9448"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9448"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}