{"id":9185,"date":"2022-06-29T13:21:00","date_gmt":"2022-06-29T13:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=9185"},"modified":"2022-07-05T07:13:45","modified_gmt":"2022-07-05T07:13:45","slug":"sa-ne-mai-scoatem-in-lume-eul-ascultator","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=9185","title":{"rendered":"S\u0103 ne mai scoatem \u00een lume eul ascult\u0103tor"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img src=\"https:\/\/scontent.fotp3-3.fna.fbcdn.net\/v\/t39.30808-6\/290904605_5572115002807262_5850776873019013707_n.jpg?_nc_cat=102&amp;ccb=1-7&amp;_nc_sid=730e14&amp;_nc_ohc=OR1bDHYBg-IAX80N41s&amp;_nc_ht=scontent.fotp3-3.fna&amp;oh=00_AT_WFmq9yfq57PqbjoX9-6Sj_7MO-RpuMktTtgFhV0omVA&amp;oe=62C92993\" alt=\"\" class=\"img-fluid\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201eN-am vrut sa zic asta, \u00eemi pare r\u0103u. A ie\u0219it altfel dec\u00e2t am vrut s\u0103 zic.\u201d Cred c\u0103 am fost cu to\u021bii \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie de acest gen, \u00een care, \u00een doar c\u00e2teva secunde, ne love\u0219te decalajul dintre inten\u021bie \u0219i rezultat \u00een comunicare. \u0218i asta vine, nu rareori, cu consecin\u021be nedorite sau cel pu\u021bin cu un efort considerabil de a repara cel pu\u021bin o conversa\u021bie, dac\u0103 nu chiar o rela\u021bie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>\u0218i totu\u0219i capacitatea noastr\u0103 de a ne auto-edita \u00een timp ce vorbim e integrat\u0103 timpuriu \u00een comportamentul nostru verbal generic. De mici ni se spune \u201eG\u00e2nde\u0219te \u00eenainte s\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti!\u201d sau \u201eIar te-a luat gura pe dinainte.\u201d Din p\u0103cate, de multe ori \u00eendemnurile acestea nu sunt \u00eenso\u021bite de mecanisme care s\u0103 ne ajute, ni se spune ce e bine, frumos \u0219i de dorit s\u0103 facem, dar nu la fel de des de ce \u0219i cum s\u0103 facem asta. Cred c\u0103 cli\u0219eele astea cu nu e bine \u0219i nu e frumos ne-au f\u0103cut s\u0103 asociem auto-editarea \u00een vorbire mai degrab\u0103 cu polite\u021bea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>Nu ar fi nimic r\u0103u \u00een asta dac\u0103 nu ar \u00eensemna mult mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t. S\u0103 fim aten\u021bi la ce \u0219i cum zicem e mai mult dec\u00e2t despre a fi politico\u0219i, e despre igiena \u0219i calitatea rela\u021biilor noastre, iar multe studii arat\u0103 c\u0103 de calitate rela\u021biilor noastre se leag\u0103 chiar sentimentele de \u00eemplinire personal\u0103 \u0219i chiar fericirea.<br>Problema cu polite\u021bea, a\u0219a cum o v\u0103d eu, este c\u0103 cel pu\u021bin \u00een spa\u021biul nostru cultural, polite\u021bea e de multe ori ca hainele bune, costumul cel bun sau camera din fa\u021b\u0103, se poart\u0103 sau folosesc la ocazii, ne str\u00e2ng ca pantofii de nunt\u0103 \u0219i, nu-i a\u0219a, e mai relaxant cu trening \u0219i flau\u0219a\u021bi. \u0218i uite a\u0219a risc\u0103m s\u0103 ne l\u0103s\u0103m fr\u00e2u liber \u0219i la \u021binut\u0103 \u0219i la gur\u0103 l\u0103s\u00e2ndu-ne surprin\u0219i c\u0103 rela\u021biile nu mai merg ca \u00eenainte. P\u0103i poate \u00eenainte eram mai aten\u021bi la ce \u0219i cum zicem \u0219i la cum ne \u00eembr\u0103cam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>Citeam \u00eentr-un articol cum speciali\u0219tii \u00een psiholingvistic\u0103 comportamental\u0103 definesc doi ascult\u0103tori care exist\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd vorbim: interlocutorul propriu zis \u0219i eul ascult\u0103tor. Eul ascult\u0103tor exist\u0103 fie c\u0103 \u00eel con\u0219tientiz\u0103m sau nu, dar cred c\u0103 avem nevoie mai des s\u0103 con\u0219tientiz\u0103m prezen\u021ba acestuia \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eel scoatem mai des \u00een lume, \u0219i nu doar pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a e bine \u0219i frumos, dar mai ales pentru a avea rela\u021bii mai bune, acas\u0103, pe strad\u0103 sau la serviciu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br>Weekly Inspiration scris de Lucian Mihai.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201eN-am vrut sa zic asta, \u00eemi pare r\u0103u. A ie\u0219it altfel dec\u00e2t am vrut s\u0103 zic.\u201d Cred c\u0103 am fost cu to\u021bii \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie de acest gen, \u00een care, \u00een doar c\u00e2teva&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9185"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9185"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9185\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9186,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9185\/revisions\/9186"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9185"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9185"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9185"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}