{"id":8935,"date":"2020-11-24T11:51:03","date_gmt":"2020-11-24T11:51:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=8935"},"modified":"2020-11-24T11:51:03","modified_gmt":"2020-11-24T11:51:03","slug":"empatie-mod-de-gandire-si-schimbare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=8935","title":{"rendered":"Empatie, mod de g\u00e2ndire \u0219i schimbare"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201dDac\u0103 vrem s\u0103 schimb\u0103m ceva \u00een jurul nostru, e bine s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem \u00eent\u00e2i realitatea, a\u0219a cum este. A accepta realitatea nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 suntem de acord, c\u0103 ne place; \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 facem radiografia realit\u0103\u021bii \u0219i apoi ne punem \u00eentrebarea: ce putem face altfel? Ca s\u0103 schimb\u0103m ceva, \u00eencepem s\u0103 facem diverse scenarii posibile, apoi alegem dintre ele.<\/p>\n

\u00cens\u0103 exist\u0103 un pericol: scenariile pe care le facem sunt infuen\u021bate de modul nostru de a vedea lumea, de filtrele, credin\u021bele noastre, de educa\u021bia noastr\u0103, de experien\u021bele pe care le-am avut. Modelele noastre mentale influen\u021beaz\u0103 \u00een ce nuan\u021be vedem realitatea. Aceste modele mentale ne vor limita accesul la anumite scenarii. Vom accepta, \u00een consecin\u021b\u0103, \u00een g\u00e2ndirea noastr\u0103, acele scenarii care intr\u0103 \u00een tiparul nostru de a vedea lucrurile. Modelele noastre mentale sunt Patul lui Procust 2.0, \u00een func\u021bie de care accept\u0103m sau reject\u0103m ceva. (Procust era personajul mitologic care \u00eei ajusta pe oameni dup\u0103 dimensiunile patului s\u0103u).
\n\u00cen\u021beleg\u00e2nd c\u0103 risc\u0103m s\u0103 fim oarecum limita\u021bi de propria g\u00e2ndire, accept\u00e2nd acest fapt, ce putem face?<\/p>\n

Dar, \u00eenainte de orice, de ce s\u0103 facem ceva? Iat\u0103 c\u00e2teva motive:<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 ceea ce ne-a adus p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een acest punct al vie\u021bii nu ne garanteaz\u0103 succesul \u0219i starea de bine ulterioare.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 lumea se schimb\u0103 mult, dac\u0103 nu \u021binem pasul, devenim repede desue\u021bi. Dac\u0103 nu crede\u021bi, aminti\u021bi-v\u0103, cei care ave\u021bi peste 40 de ani, c\u0103 a\u021bi trecut prin epoca telefonului fix, a scrisorilor, a\u021bi \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 folosi\u021bi telefonul mobil \u0219i calculatorul, c\u0103 acestea au devenit o prelungire a m\u00e2inii voastre. Poate c\u0103 to\u021bi am f\u0103cut \u0219coala de \u0219oferi pe ma\u0219in\u0103 cu schimb\u0103tor manual de viteze, probabil conducem o ma\u0219in\u0103 automat\u0103 iar acum se vorbe\u0219te de ma\u0219ini f\u0103r\u0103 \u0219ofer.
\nMediul este foarte incert, volatil. Putem schimba ceva la noi, ca s\u0103 ne adapt\u0103m.<\/p>\n

Iat\u0103 \u0219i c\u00e2teva sugestii de posibile ac\u021biuni:<\/p>\n

S\u0103 nu ne izol\u0103m, s\u0103 \u021binem leg\u0103tura cu ceilal\u021bi! Mi se pare un pericol foarte mare, mai ales acum, c\u00e2nd avem senza\u021bia c\u0103 suntem singuri, c\u00e2nd st\u0103m acas\u0103, c\u00e2nd ne lipse\u0219te apropierea uman\u0103.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 vorbim cu oameni din alte firme, care au alte interese, care ne dau alte perspective, s\u0103 nu devenim combativi, s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem perspectiva lor. To\u021bi auzim \u0219i totu\u0219i at\u00e2t de mul\u021bi ascult\u0103m doar cu scopul de a da replica! Cum ar fi ca scopul s\u0103 fie doar s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem ce vrea s\u0103 spun\u0103 cel\u0103lalt, cum gande\u0219te, ce simte? Nu va exista progres \u00een rela\u021biile interumane f\u0103r\u0103 a asculta cu inten\u021bia de a-l \u00een\u021belege cu adev\u0103rat pe cel\u0103lalt.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 citim din diverse domenii, s\u0103 ascult\u0103m podcasturi cu oameni mai de\u0219tep\u021bi dec\u00e2t noi. S\u0103 ne \u00eenconjur\u0103m virtual de idei din alte culturi, s\u0103 le examin\u0103m, s\u0103 le punem sub semn de \u00eentrebare, s\u0103 facem efortul de a \u00een\u021belege alte perspective.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 fim \u00een preajma copiilor: ei au un fel surprinz\u0103tor de a vedea lumea! Copiii nu au limit\u0103ri \u00eenc\u0103, \u00eendr\u0103znesc, sunt dezinhiba\u021bi, dezinvol\u021bi, creativi, copiii simt ce e bine \u0219i ce nu e bine mult mai rapid \u0219i cu acurate\u021be mai mare dec\u00e2t adul\u021bii. Am observat de mai multe ori c\u0103 un copil simte imediat un om cu inten\u021bii rele, \u00eel respinge la fel de repede precum accept\u0103 pe oamenii buni \u00een preajma lor. Zic s\u0103 fim aten\u021bi la ei, s-ar putea s\u0103 aib\u0103 o intui\u021bie mai bun\u0103 dec\u00e2t noi.
\nTot ei, copiii, ne pot re-\u00eenv\u0103\u021ba s\u0103 vedem realitatea, dac\u0103 accept\u0103m s\u0103 ne uit\u0103m prin ochii lor sinceri, care v\u0103d lumea pentru prima oar\u0103.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 mergem la un curs de Mindset Change sau Design Thinking – cei care \u021bin astfel de cursuri vin mereu cu alte perspective, ne scutur\u0103, surprind.<\/p>\n

F\u0103r\u0103 a deveni mai empatici, a ne pune sub semn de \u00eentrebare frecvent modul de g\u00e2ndire, nu vom schimba ceva la noi, \u00een jurul nostru. Risc\u0103m s\u0103 fim precum apa st\u0103tut\u0103, cum erau acele lacuri care prindeau m\u0103tasea broa\u0219tei, miroseau ur\u00e2t. La fel poate ajunge \u0219i mintea dac\u0103 rumeg\u0103 doar ce g\u00e2nde\u0219te ea \u0219i nu accept\u0103 alte p\u0103reri.\u201d<\/p>\n

Weekly Inspiration scris de Georgeta Dendrino.<\/p>\n

#changeyourmindset
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\u201dDac\u0103 vrem s\u0103 schimb\u0103m ceva \u00een jurul nostru, e bine s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem \u00eent\u00e2i realitatea, a\u0219a cum este. A accepta realitatea nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 suntem de acord, c\u0103 ne place; \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 facem…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8935"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8935"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8935\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8938,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8935\/revisions\/8938"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8935"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8935"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8935"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}