{"id":8900,"date":"2020-09-01T11:18:22","date_gmt":"2020-09-01T11:18:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=8900"},"modified":"2020-09-01T11:18:22","modified_gmt":"2020-09-01T11:18:22","slug":"curajul-de-a-spune-%e2%80%9dnu-stiu%e2%80%9d","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=8900","title":{"rendered":"Curajul de a spune \u201dnu \u0219tiu\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?attachment_id=6508\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-6508\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6508 img-fluid\" title=\"alina-doica\" src=\"http:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/alina-doica2.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"333\" height=\"344\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/alina-doica2.png 333w, https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/alina-doica2-290x300.png 290w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u201dZilele trecute am ie\u0219it la o teras\u0103 la invita\u021bia unei prietene \u0219i pe parcursul serii am avut ocazia s\u0103 stau de vorb\u0103 cu mai mult\u0103 lume, at\u00e2t prietene mai apropiate, c\u00e2t \u0219i persoane pe care le-am cunoscut atunci. A\u0219a cum se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een astfel de situa\u021bii, am vorbit c\u00e2te \u00een lun\u0103 \u0219i \u00een stele, mai serioase sau mai frivole. La un moment dat, vorbind despre copii, una dintre persoanele de la mas\u0103 ne-a povestit c\u00e2te ceva despre fata ei de 9 ani \u0219i \u0219i-a exprimat nedumerirea fa\u021b\u0103 de unul dintre comportamentele ei \u0219i de ce anume \u00eel manifest\u0103. A fost unul dintre acele momente c\u00e2nd parc\u0103 am dat filmul cu \u00eencetinitorul \u0219i mi-am pus p\u0103l\u0103ria de observator al propriilor reac\u021bii \u0219i tendin\u021be.<\/p>\n<p>Am fost foarte tentat\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eei ofer o explica\u021bie, s\u0103 \u00eemi exprim opinia \u2013 sistemul 1, vorba lui Daniel Kahneman, \u0219tia deja cum st\u0103 treaba, de\u0219i eu abia o cunoscusem. Cu alte cuvinte nu \u0219tiam nimic despre ea, despre feti\u021ba ei, despre contextul lor. A\u0219a c\u0103 mi-am propus s\u0103 \u00eemi exercit dreptul de a spune \u201dnu \u0219tiu\u201d. Ce crede\u021bi c\u0103 s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat? Exact, nimic! Am pus doar dou\u0103-trei \u00eentreb\u0103ri, \u00een \u00eencercarea de a \u00een\u021belege mai bine \u0219i apoi am l\u0103sat conversa\u021bia s\u0103 curg\u0103, iar seara nu a pierdut nimic din farmec prin faptul c\u0103 am ales s\u0103 \u00eemi \u021bin p\u0103rerile pentru mine.<\/p>\n<p>A fost un exerci\u021biu eliberator \u0219i mi-am propus s\u0103-l fac mai des. Sigur, nu m\u0103 refer la situa\u021biile c\u00e2nd ni se cere opinia \u00een privin\u021ba zonelor noastre de expertiz\u0103 (de\u0219i, chiar \u0219i \u00een astfel de cazuri, nu scrie nic\u0103ieri c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 avem un r\u0103spuns la toate). Am constatat \u00eens\u0103 c\u0103 avem obiceiul de a ne da cu p\u0103rerea oric\u00e2nd \u0219i oricum. \u00cencuraja\u021bi de accesibilitatea informa\u021biei \u0219i de practicarea unui tip de g\u00e2ndire superficial\u0103, ne credem \u00eendrept\u0103\u021bi\u021bi s\u0103 ne exprim\u0103m pe orice tem\u0103, uit\u00e2nd c\u0103 \u0219tim de fapt destul de pu\u021bine lucruri \u00een profunzime. A\u0219adar, a spune \u201dnu \u0219tiu\u201d poate fi din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd un exerci\u021biu de necesar\u0103 modestie.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Weekly Inspiration scris de Alina Doica.<\/p>\n<p>#interacters<br \/>\n#enablingchange<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201dZilele trecute am ie\u0219it la o teras\u0103 la invita\u021bia unei prietene \u0219i pe parcursul serii am avut ocazia s\u0103 stau de vorb\u0103 cu mai mult\u0103 lume, at\u00e2t prietene mai apropiate, c\u00e2t \u0219i&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8900"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8900"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8900\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8902,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8900\/revisions\/8902"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8900"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8900"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8900"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}