{"id":8784,"date":"2020-04-21T10:23:45","date_gmt":"2020-04-21T10:23:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=8784"},"modified":"2020-04-21T10:23:45","modified_gmt":"2020-04-21T10:23:45","slug":"fraierul-smecherul-si-regulile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?p=8784","title":{"rendered":"Fraierul, \u0219mecherul \u0219i regulile"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/?attachment_id=8776\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-8776\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-8776 img-fluid\" title=\"lucian-mihai-interact_0\" src=\"http:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/lucian-mihai-interact_0.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"728\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Semaforul pentru pietoni era ro\u0219u de ceva vreme. Traficul din Belgrad din acea diminea\u021b\u0103 de var\u0103 din1995 nu era deloc intens. \u00cempreun\u0103 noul meu prieten italian, Nicola, m\u0103 \u00eendreptam c\u0103tre Facultatea de Filologie a universit\u0103\u021bii belgr\u0103dene unde urmam o \u0219coal\u0103 de var\u0103. Nu ne gr\u0103beam. \u0218i totu\u0219i, aveam am\u00e2ndoi senza\u021bia c\u0103 dureaz\u0103 prea mult culoarea ro\u0219ie. Ne-am uitat in st\u00e2nga, \u00een dreapta, nu mai venea nicio ma\u0219in\u0103. Ne-am uitat unul la cel\u0103lalt, ne-am z\u00e2mbit complice \u0219i am trecut. Pe ro\u0219u. Nu am uitat reac\u021bia de moment a lui Nicola: tu sei proprio un italiano! R\u00e2z\u00e2nd, i-am r\u0103spuns c\u0103 \u0219i el e un rom\u00e2n adev\u0103rat. A urmat apoi o discu\u021bie legat\u0103 de logic\u0103, prostie, excep\u021bii \u0219i normal, glume despre nem\u021bi.<\/p>\n<p>Peste ani am interpretat aceast\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2mplare ce demonstra afinit\u0103\u021bi culturale \u0219i din alt\u0103 perspectiv\u0103, cea a modelelor mentale. Dac\u0103 prin model mental \u00een\u021belegem procesul \u0219i reperele de g\u00e2ndire prin care cineva \u00ee\u0219i explic\u0103 cum func\u021bioneaz\u0103 un anumit lucru \u00een realitate, atunci, \u00een cazul nostru, am\u00e2ndoi aveam un model mental comun. Acesta a permis at\u00e2t complicitatea dar a produs \u0219i amuzamentul legat de \u00eenc\u0103lcarea unei reguli. \u00cen frac\u021biuni de secund\u0103 creierele noastre au evaluat o situa\u021bie legat\u0103 de risc, logic\u0103, consecin\u021be, pierdere \u0219i c\u00e2\u0219tig \u0219i decizia a fost luat\u0103. Modelul nostru mental legat de reguli se manifesta atunci \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie relativ benign\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Zilele acestea, \u00een plin\u0103 pandemie, un lucru mi-a atras aten\u021bia \u0219i m-a revoltat \u00een prim\u0103 faz\u0103 mai mult dec\u00e2t alte multe exemple de \u00eenc\u0103lcare de reguli. Un medic militar desemnat s\u0103 salveze situa\u021bia dramatic\u0103 din spitalul de la Suceava declara c\u0103 personalul medical civil refuza s\u0103 poarte materialele de protec\u021bie care erau chiar disponibile. \u0218i, ca o pic\u0103tur\u0103 plin\u0103 de esen\u021b\u0103 a pervertirii regulilor declarate, azi asist\u0103m la umplerea paharului cu reglement\u0103rile propuse pentru a aduce lumina pascal\u0103 cu poli\u021bia.<\/p>\n<p>Am mai tr\u0103it o reac\u021bie similar\u0103 de revolt\u0103 \u00een perioada tragediei de la Colectiv \u0219i a scandalului Hexipharma. Atunci, tot \u00eentr-o criz\u0103 sanitar\u0103, \u00eemi reveneau \u00een minte c\u00e2teva detalii care anterior doar m\u0103 r\u00e2c\u00e2iau. De c\u00e2te ori \u00een preajma unui spital nu a\u021bi remarcat at\u00e2t personal medical c\u00e2t \u0219i pacien\u021bi plimb\u0103ndu-se non\u0219alant, cu treab\u0103, evident, pe la non-stop-uri sau magazine, \u00eembr\u0103ca\u021bi fie \u00een halate sau pijamale \u0219i capoturi dar mai ales cu faimo\u0219ii sabo\u021bi albi de spital sau papuci?<\/p>\n<p>Acum, \u00eentr-o derulare rapid\u0103, se succed \u00een mintea mea imagini cu p\u0103rin\u021bi la volan \u0219i copii l\u0103sa\u021bi la liber pe bancheta din spate, centuri de siguran\u021b\u0103 puse pe la spate ca s\u0103 nu \u201dbip\u0103ie\u201d, v\u00e2nz\u0103tori de catarame de centuri de siguran\u021b\u0103, dep\u0103\u0219iri pe linia continu\u0103 \u00een curbe periculoase, travers\u0103ri \u00een fug\u0103 prin locuri nepermise, muncitori pe \u0219antier f\u0103r\u0103 casc\u0103 \u0219i \u00een \u0219lapi \u0219i a\u0219 mai putea continua. F\u0103r\u0103 prea mare greutate, de la b\u0103gatul \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 la coad\u0103 pentru c\u0103 \u201dm\u0103 gr\u0103besc \u0219i eu\u201d, trec\u00e2nd prin \u201dera prea departe trecerea de pietoni\u201d \u0219i ajung\u00e2nd la revolt\u0103torul \u201de incomod s\u0103 lucr\u0103m cu echipamentul de protec\u021bie \u00een spital\u201d am putea face o enciclopedie \u00een care s\u0103 relief\u0103m leg\u0103turile noatre cu regulile.<\/p>\n<p>Pentru a \u00een\u021belege mai bine un model mental e nevoie s\u0103 analiz\u0103m mai \u00eent\u00e2i comportamntele, deciziile noastre \u0219i mai ales r\u0103spunsurile automate atunci c\u00e2nd ne \u00eentreb\u0103m de ce am f\u0103cut asta. Limbajul folosit \u00een r\u0103spunsurile autmoate e cel care ne ajut\u0103 cel mai bine s\u0103 facem radiografia unui model mental.<br \/>\n\u0218i pentru c\u0103 un stfel de model nu apare peste noapte a\u0219 \u00eencepe cu: \u201dlas\u0103-l mam\u0103 c\u0103 e copil!\u201d. Cu c\u00e2t un astfel de feedback e mai des cu at\u00e2t mai mult excep\u021bia de la regul\u0103 e asociat\u0103 cu afec\u021biunea \u0219i grija unei autorit\u0103\u021bi. A\u0219 continua cu replica celebr\u0103 \u201d da ce tu e\u0219ti mai fraier?\u201d sau varia\u021biunea ei \u201dda ce e\u0219ti mai prost?\u201d \u0219i a\u0219a, treptat, exist\u0103 undeva un risc asociat: s\u0103 p\u0103rem pro\u0219ti sau fraieri dac\u0103 respect\u0103m o regul\u0103. M\u0103 suprindea de multe ori tonul admirativ cu care expresia \u201de \u0219mecher m\u0103, se descurc\u0103\u201d este folosit\u0103 cu referire la personaje care \u00een mod clar nu respectau nu doar o regul\u0103 ci un set \u00eentreg. Dar, iat\u0103 cum a nu respecta regulile devine \u0219i un mijoc de a demostra statut, putere.<\/p>\n<p>Nu \u00een ultimul r\u00e2nd \u201ddoar nu era s\u0103 merg at\u00e2t\u201d combinat cu \u201dhai m\u0103 c\u0103 nu are\/avea ce s\u0103 se \u00eentmple\u201d ne pot demonstra cum \u00eenc\u0103lcarea unei reguli poate fi \u0219i o chestiune de confort care minimizeaz\u0103 analiza de risc.<\/p>\n<p>C\u00e2nd nerespectarea regulilor are consecin\u021be dramatice \u0219i ne atinge pe to\u021bi \u00een mod firesc ne revolt\u0103m. Auzim zilele acestea \u201dcum e posibil?\u201d, \u201dbezna min\u021bii\u201d, \u201dnu se poate a\u0219a ceva!\u201d Pentru c\u0103 modelul nostru mental colectiv legat de reguli e plin de disconan\u021be cognitive \u00eentre ce \u0219tim \u0219i credem de fapt \u00een profunzime sau de ce ne temem, e posibil s\u0103 ne mai tot mir\u0103m sau revolt\u0103m. Solu\u021bia pe termen lung se leag\u0103 de \u00een\u021belegerea modelelor mentale \u0219i de oprirea propag\u0103rii lor. Se poate face asta la nivel individual? Teoretic, da. Practic v\u0103 invit s\u0103 g\u0103si\u021bi ipostaze \u00een care, m\u0103 scuza\u021bi c\u0103 prezum asta (sic!), nu a\u021bi respectat o regul\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eentreba\u021bi, de ce? Era vorba de confort? A\u021bi fost fraieri sau \u0219mecheri?<br \/>\nAsta pentru c\u0103 p\u00e2na nu ne salv\u0103m individual nu putem salva nici un sistem.<\/p>\n<p>Se spune c\u0103 umorul transcende culturi atunci c\u00e2nd modelele mentale din culturile respective au lucruri \u00een comun. Sunte\u021bi la semafor al\u0103turi de un german. Uita\u021bi-v\u0103 la el z\u00e2mbind complice, face\u021bi-i cu ochiul \u0219i \u0219ugub\u0103\u021b, cu toat\u0103 mimica pe care o \u00eentrez\u0103ri\u021bi \u00een ceea ce scriu aici, traduce\u021bi-i asta \u00een german\u0103: \u201dHai m\u0103, e\u0219ti fraier? Doar n-o s\u0103 st\u0103m aici ca pro\u0219tii, nu vezi c\u0103 nu vine nimic?\u201d Ce reac\u021bie probabil\u0103 va avea?<\/p>\n<p>Weekly Inspiration scris de Lucian Mihai.<\/p>\n<p>#enablingchange<br \/>\n#mentalmodels<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Semaforul pentru pietoni era ro\u0219u de ceva vreme. Traficul din Belgrad din acea diminea\u021b\u0103 de var\u0103 din1995 nu era deloc intens. \u00cempreun\u0103 noul meu prieten italian, Nicola, m\u0103 \u00eendreptam c\u0103tre Facultatea de&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8784"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8784"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8784\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8786,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8784\/revisions\/8786"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8784"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8784"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-interact.eu\/wordpress\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8784"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}